Too Scared to Fail!
“If you are not willing to risk the usual, you will have to settle for the ordinary.”
- Jim Rohn
I was searching for some quotes along the lines of failure and success to initiate this blog and I couldn’t have asked for a better one.
Ever wondered why there are more of ordinary people? Because given an option between Success and Failure, most of us would chose to have success. Rightly so. It would be foolish to choose failure. But then how many of us will put in the effort and the hard work required to taste success? How many of us would be ready to risk or sacrifice something to achieve success — The same success you chose in the first place. Instead, we then accept this ordinary life, after deciding against risking the things we possess.
Of course we need to be calculative about the risks. You can’t really bet your life savings on the Halley’s comet appearing in 2020. It won’t, because Edmond Halley proved by his calculations that the comet — Halley’s comet, will appear every 76 years, and since all his calculations have been accurate, it’s fair to say the comet will next appear in 2061.
However, you can calculate and risk, and put in time on that thing you love to do.
Love singing? Go get trained, give an audition, or form a band. Don’t waste your talent singing in birthday parties.
Love writing? Go write a blog, a book, or study literature. Don’t waste the space on Facebook among 843 friends.
Love politics? Go join politics and help the citizens of your country around. Don’t waste it bitching around.
The worst that can happen by trying something new is you failing at it. Big Deal!
Ever made an omelet? Seems pretty easy right? Remember the first one you made? Was it exactly how you thought it will be?
I remember that. I fucked it up!!
I also remember the one I made one for breakfast earlier today. I think it was delicious, and round, in one piece, and not burnt at all.
We are too scared to try and fail at things. Too scared to take risks. Too scared to lose the job, the money, the phone, the social life. We are scared of getting a B or C grade, let alone a F grade. Running after success without working for it, and hoping to achieve it someday, when we don’t have the balls to put in that extra effort to reach to the top.
You, yourself are the medium of change, and we instead give our right to decide to others. We definitely give others to have an opinion on our own decisions. We let society decide how to lead our own lives. We are too scared to even make decisions, for our own lives. We think too much and do very little.
If you want advice on how to become a car mechanic, you go talk to a car mechanic. You do not go to your best friend from college, who’s a computer engineer, and ask him for advice on how to become a car mechanic.
That will, most likely, start this debate on how it is or is not good for you which will only pollute your mind.
This opinion of a “somebody” generally is not from someone who’s had a firsthand experience at something you want to do. Instead, he/she had a friend, who had a friend, who tried his/her luck and failed, which is why you’re advise not to do it as well.
Well, what about you doing it differently? What about you being better than this friend’s friend’s friend?
Here’s the thing: You want to be a mechanic? Go be one. Give yourself an opportunity to fail. Do your best at making a success out of being one. You don’t have to try to fail. Even if you fail at it — Well, at least you tried. At least, now you know that you suck at being a mechanic and should try your hand at something else.
If you don’t try, 20 years from now when you’re stuck at taking orders from someone, you will think of that day 20 years ago when you could have tried at being a car mechanic, and might have your own garage today.
Let me tell you a worse thing that can happen if you don’t try today.
Ever thought of your deathbed? Think of saying “I wish I’d tried”, on your deathbed.
Yeah, Rest in Peace after saying that!
Here’s another quote to throw since we are talking of failing multiple times
“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” — Thomas A. Edison
The next time you go watch a movie at a movie theater, thank Edison and remember this quote of his on failing. He succeeded because he found ways to fail, and didn’t have to try that way one more time.
Enough motivation to do something?
We need experiences to live, and money to survive. Yet we run after money and miss out on experiences which are more important.
Unless you taste failure, you will never want to succeed and get better, and unless you taste success, you will not be successful. Pretty simple.
We — “The Generation Z/Post Millennials” — Born after 1996, and the ones born around the same time are too scared to lose the comfortable lives we have been provided. We the privileged lot, were born with a silver spoon, and don’t want to let go of it.
I was just browsing Twitter the other day when my younger brother retweeted
Teenager asks “ How did you live before without internet, computers, TV news hour, air conditioners, jets, smartphones.”
Father replied “Just like your generation lives today without compassion, honour, respect, modesty, sports, reading!”
— Harsh Goenka (@hvgoenka) March 18, 2018
We are just running after the wrong things. Time to get the right qualities back, time to let go of these materialistic, superficial world we have created, take some risks, start doing what we want to, start failing, and then succeed.